As often as we are the host or hostess at a party, we're also in the role of being the guest. It's easy when you're the guest to feel like you have little responsibility for the success of the party. But if you'd like to be a guest who is always invited back for the next party, here are tips to make you the kind of good guest who is welcome at anybody's table.
1) R.S.V.P. ASAP
Respond to your invitation as soon as you know (and no later than the stated RSVP date) whether or not you can attend the party. That way your hostess can make her plans knowing the exact number of guests who will be attending.
2) Ask Your Hostess What You Can Contribute, If Anything
Ask if you can contribute anything to the meal such as an appetizer, side dish or dessert. The hostess may be relieved to have someone else take charge of one of the courses. However, don't bring a dish without running it by your hostess. She may be making something similar or it may clash with her carefully planned menu. Similarly, if you bring a bottle of wine as a hostess gift, you shouldn't expect it to be served with the meal. The hostess may have planned the wines to complement her meal.
3) Offer to Help Dress Up the Table
Not a cook? Then offer to bring a table or buffet centerpiece or other decoration. Once again, don't bring this if your hostess has declined the offer. She may already have her own specific decorating scheme planned.
By Donna Pilato, About.com